Questions to Ask Yourself

If you are struggling with the question of whether to parent or place your child for adoption, the following are a few questions to ask yourself to help you decide if you are prepared to raise a child.

These questions are not intended to persuade you into adoption, but to make certain that you have the opportunity to think through all of the responsibilities and demands of parenting.

If you are leaning towards adoption and you want to review potential families you might choose as the gift you give your baby, you can see prospective parent profiles here.

Questions to Ask Yourself:

• Am I able to give a child what he/she demands and needs?
• Would I have to count on my parents to help me out?
• Can I raise a child and meet my own needs? To finish school? To start a career?
• Am I ready to become a parent on my own?
• What do I want to achieve in life and experience out of life? How does parenting a child affect that?
• Could I handle a child, a job, and/or school simultaneously?
• Am I ready to give up the freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want?
• An example of something I might have to give up by having my child with me would be…
• Am I willing to alter my schedule on having fun or staying home while my friends go out?
• How does being a parent affect my free time and privacy?
• Can I afford to support a child? How will I pay for rent, clothing, food, diapers, and other living expenses?
• Do I want to raise a child in the neighborhood that I live in now? Where do I plan to live?
• Do I want my child to be like me?
• Am I expecting my child to make my life happy and to love me?
• When I am around small children for a while, what do I think or feel about having a two-year-old around ALL the time?
• How would I treat a child if I lost my temper or became angry?
• How would I discipline a toddler?
• How would I take care of my child’s health and safety?
• Do I enjoy teaching others?
• How will I feel knowing my child is with someone else?
• Can I stand to see someone else raising my child?
• Can I handle seeing my child on someone else’s schedule in an open adoption?

You might even think of other questions that need to be answered.  It is also important to ask questions about what adoption means for you and what changes and challenges it brings.  This page is focused on questions related to becoming a parent.

If you want to explore prospective Christian families, we recommend that you Register First, allowing you to create a “Favorites” list.  It is easier to mark them as favorites so you don’t have to try and find them again.